Obama’s time is done. It’s High Time for Wisdom.

I remember watching the television alone in my living room, curled up on my sofa as I listened to Senator Barack Obama prepare to give his victory speech on the night of November 4, 2008.  At the time, I was the mother of a toddler girl and barely three years in marriage.  I watched Barack and Michelle Obama take that stage with their two girls.  You might be thinking that I was sitting there grinning from ear to ear.  I wasn’t.  Several clips flashed across the screen of people all over the world witnessing this historical moment in the United States.  It appeared to me that many of them were more proud to be Americans than I was at that moment.  I wasn’t a fan of Barack Obama. I feared for Obama.  On that night, visions of Martin Luther King and President John F. Kennedy raced across my mind.  I clutched my decorative pillows.  As people were carrying signs at Grant Park in Illinois that stated “HOPE”, I sat there gripped with fear.  I feared for the life of the next president of the United States. 

The years passed after Inauguration Day 2009 and I grew weary of hearing the dialogue about RACE IN AMERICA. I am not one to say that race relations worsened under The Obama Administration.  I believe the evil of discrimination just got really bold.

I served as an officer in the military. I was taught that you never speak harmful words about the Commander In Chief.  You can have your convictions but it would be best not to share them publicly and certainly not in uniform. Was I the only officer that got that training? You have to wonder that when you hear high officials speaking of the leader of this great nation with such hard to hear disdain.  If my child hears me screaming through the house, I set the example for him to follow.  And that is what I felt was taking place in America…everybody screaming how much they hate Barack Obama.

When the following election came, I just wanted Obama out of office so the screaming would stop.  I just wanted to see him and his family go back to their lives and safely live.  For those first four years, I believe he had a target on his back and I just knew it was a matter of time before someone would try it.  So, there I was election night in 2012 waiting to hear that the Obama Era had come to an end and I would get my wish.  But when it was announced that he was elected for a second term, I sat alone in the quiet of my living room.  I looked up at heaven knowing surely this was the Lord’s doing because the Bible says that the existing authorities are established by God (Romans 13.1).  I asked a question of God, “What does this mean?” For three presidential elections in a row, it appeared that I had voted contrary to God.

Do you think that after his second term elected to office that my feelings about him would have changed? No.  I am not a fan of his politics.  I don’t support his views on many, many issues.  But you know what, I have to tell you that despite the fact that I disagree with him, I’ve grown to love the person.  I am extremely proud of the family man that is Barack H. Obama.  I am not his fan but I love him for what his image has done for me; a black woman, the oldest of three girls whose father was absent when we were Sasha and Malia’s ages.

Family Man: President Barack Obama

If I can say anything about his presidency, I cannot deny that he has stood the test against much adversity AND he has represented the versions of the leading man in black families that we rarely see (how many good examples of that do we see in celebrity?)  For that, I give you a high five and a bow President Barack Obama.  You showed the world.

1)      Black men love black women, faithfully. (First Lady Obama has hips and an attitude too.)

2)      Educated black men seek out talented black women, marry, raise families and treat each other like royals.

3)      Black men want to be involved in the lives of their wife and children. They want to build families and not just breed seed.

4)      Black men aren’t afraid to show deep affection for their queen in public.

5)      Strong, black men are not rock hard, unfeeling people.  They cry and they get emotional at times.  They are forgiving.

6)      Black men don’t have to curse, change their facial expressions or get loud to let you know that they are in charge.

7)      Black men can have non-black buddies and really get along to the point it is special to watch.

8)      Black men demonstrate what a good man looks like to their little girls because they treat her mother so well.

9)      A black man is unselfish and he wants you to have the best and he will give his best trying to give that to you.

10)  Black men want to see younger black men succeed and so they lead them and mentor them.

“Pretty sure I’ve never cried during a President’s speech until tonight, for he’s a fantastic orator. Please tell me I wasn’t alone.” – Jodi McGovney Sewell, USNA Class of 1999

I didn’t watch President Obama’s Farewell address.  I was grading papers that night. But I certainly heard about it the next day. It was my Naval Academy classmate’s Facebook post that reinforced my need to write this note.  (Thank you Jodi Sewell for allowing me to share this.)

You may not have liked everything that he was about.  You may not have liked anything he put out.  But I believe there is plenty about this President of the United States that you can say that you absolutely loved.  And you loved it to the point that you are going to miss it when he moves on.  Go ahead, be honest, Barack Obama, got under your skin…in a good way.  I won’t tell anyone you said it.

So, on to tomorrow.  I have another kind of fear for tomorrow’s Inauguration Day.  I am asking you all to pray.  Pray for this nation.  Pray for the Trump Administration.  Pray that he leads with wisdom and that he makes us proud.  I am not his fan either but who knows, Obama had Hope.

Blessings to the Obama Family! Live Long.

QuaWanna Bannarbie

 

Real Ways to Engage without Facebook Live

Have you noticed how much “live streaming” is dreadfully disturbing? It is becoming addictive just like Candy Crush. People seem to be hooked on this stimulant that is screaming “watch me, watch me”.

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I will admit that I was attracted to that LIVE LIFE for a while (although I haven’t streamed anything live myself).  Each time I saw a friend “go live”, I was immediately there to check out what they had going on.  But this past week, I realized this “live buzz” is killing us and we need to get back to some real effective ways to engage with people via our social networks without suddenly becoming a witness to a crime. (It really is that serious.)

Social media has its bad points but I believe if we use it socially as it was meant to be used, we can make better use of its good qualities.  Think about how much you scroll through your accounts during the day.  No one has time to read everything posted and truly some of us need to let go of a few subscriptions (but that is a conversation for another time).  However, for the things that we do read, what would happen if you took a moment just to let the content creator know that you were hooked in the scroll?  Just stop to say “keep it coming guy, I liked this!”

Every family has that member that spends their life on social media.

Well, why don’t you employ that auntie to help you out with your reach and expansion?  Ask Aunt Jen to share your content, every time you share your content.  Then tell Aunt Jen to make a comment that says something like “My Niece is Doing Great Work.” Her engagement on your post is going to get others engaged.  If Aunt Jen can share Bishop Jakes sermons and she is not his auntie, why shouldn’t she share your goods? Support is best understood when people give of their resources to another person’s work.  Family members are good encouragers in words. They can be good encouragers in deeds too. 

Speaking of encouragement.  How many times have you read a post on Twitter and loved it but kept scrolling? YES? Well, shame on you.  We are too focused on getting rather than giving.  If the content blessed you, let the content creator know it and encourage them to continue.  We have got to encourage each other more.  I recently joined the 500 word challenge with Jeff Goins.  I have scrolled through a few of the other sites in the challenge and I have taken Jeff’s advice to say hello on the blogger’s site. I haven’t been blogging that long but I know it must make anyone feel great to know that their words reached another human being. I know there is power in my engagement so I don’t mind giving a little bit here and there. Own your power and use it to lift others.

Several people I know are on a path of something new at the start of 2017. 

You all know it is hard to keep the momentum going after January 15th has come and gone and certainly after February 1st arrives.  So, do this for me.  For every person in your life that you know is doing something new, challenging and exciting, text them and let them know you are looking forward to the next thing.  People want to deliver when they know that you are looking for something from them.  So encourage them to keep it going.  Don’t let them give up on whatever it is that they are working on.  Your encouragement keeps them engaged in whatever they have purposed to accomplish this year.  You’re helping them see it through.

Lastly, take the time to encourage those people in your life that serve you.  Recently, my bus driver texted me that my daughter had gotten into a bit of trouble on the bus.  I have told the driver many times that she is free to contact me if she ever has trouble out of my children.  She took me up on my offer.  I responded to her compliance with a hearty thank you and encouraged her to stay safe on the roadways.  Her response, “Thank you. I will.”  Everyone can appreciate encouragement.  Encouragement is the ultimate power of engagement and we have it at our finger tips with these mobile devices. You don’t need to be in someone’s personal space to be engaged.  Invite yourself in by merely saying “I SEE YOUR HUSTLE. KEEP FLEXING YOUR MUSCLE.”  Engagement is a super power.  Don’t give all yours away to live streaming.

Good Year

Hello family of Notes and Commentary.  Tyrone and QuaWanna Bannarbie would like to thank you so much for accompanying us on our blog quest in 2016.  It is our hope that we have provided some words of encouragement for family leaders.  May you impact your community as you serve your family and your home well. We are believing for a great 2017!

We wish to share some highlights from our year that blessed us as we reflect on Twenty Sixteen.

I made a list of prayers during our January Consecration.  Each year, we participate in a Daniel Fast for 21 days with our church family at Covenant Community Church.  The past two years, I have kept a prayer agenda to help me recall my prayers.  I love looking back to review them.  Some prayers were answered and some I just gotta keep praying.  Prayer Works!

We have the testimony of the following God deeds:

FAMILY

1.)    Tyrone and QuaWanna celebrated ELEVEN years of marriage on September 3, 2016.

2.)    Our family friend, Satoya, who was diagnosed in JUN 2016 with breast cancer, is healed.

3.)    Children have grown in their love for God, participating in Bring Your Bible to School Day and they used their submissions into the Virginia Parents Teachers Association Reflections Contest to share “What’s Your Story” regarding their faith.  They were also Honor Roll students all year.

4.)  Visits with family in GA, MD and TX.

COMMUNITY

1.)    Tyrone led the Covenant Community Church Ambassadors Outreach in serving over 35 families with a full Thanksgiving  basket complete with a turkey, all the fixings and a gift card.

2.)    It’s been a year since I posted the sign, “Jesus Loves You” on the back of my NISSAN QUEST and we are still spreading the message of the unfailing love of Jesus.  (People probably wonder does the van ever get washed because the sign hasn’t gone away.  But I do wash it! I just replace the sign each time.)

3.)    QuaWanna facilitated a leadership summer program in Greensboro, NC with Leadership LINKS, Inc. during AUG 2016.  She submitted an article regarding the event in the Verse newsletter for Indiana Wesleyan University faculty and it was published in OCT 2016.

LIFESTYLE

1.)    WE STARTED THIS BLOG and have more lifestyle business ventures coming in the near future.

2.)    We paid off the debt for the van. We are now driving two paid vehicles with titles in our hands.

3.)    Tyrone and QuaWanna voted in the 2016 Presidential Election in NOV.

We hope you enjoy the picture presentation. (Can you spot our Bannarbie Blessing Board display?)

We encourage you to look back on 2016.  Look at what the Lord has done for you.  Don’t just think about it, write the things you recall on a nice piece of stationery and frame it in your prayer room.  Write a thank you card to God and place it in a memory box in your family room.  (The Original Love Box is a beautiful gift to your family.)

Blessings in the New Year!