We are approaching a pivotal year.

Heart with our InitialsOn September 3rd, my husband and I will celebrate another anniversary.  This morning when we were praying together before he departed for work, I  felt a need to set my focus on the year ahead rather than on the year we are about to celebrate.  We haven’t done that before.

Anniversaries essentially celebrate that we completed another year.  It is like patting each other on the back and saying “we made it”.  Thinking about it now, I can recall a few of those years back that those pats on the back were accompanied by rolling eyes.  It hasn’t always been a joy to say, “we made it to the end of the year.”  When we made it to a decade, I couldn’t really say I was in the mood for celebrating though that was supposed to be a major milestone.  People put different emphasis on the meaning of the years of a marriage whether it is year 1, 5, 10 or 50.  I rather not dwell on the significance of the meaning of the number itself but rather what that meaning represents in the lives of the couple who are celebrating those years of longevity.  We will commemorate the end of year 11 at the same time we are approaching the beginning of year 12.

As we prayed this morning, I thought about the season that we have been going through.  In one word, I would call it PRESS.  On SEP 3rd, 2015, we celebrated our anniversary with a trip, without the children (Thank you Mom), to the Shenandoah Valley.  We had a great time.   The morning of our anniversary last year, we got up and prayed together.  During that time of prayer, I remember repeating the words of Genesis 1:28.  These words God spoke to Adam and Eve on the day of their wedding, “And God blessed them, and God said unto them, be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.”  I declared to my husband on that day that we would hearken to the voice of God and we would multiply and we would both have dominion because Our Father has blessed us to do so.  I understood in that moment that God’s multiplication doesn’t just concern more human seed.  God’s multiplication means “to sow” in the earth and produce.  I have come to understand that such a profound declaration brought about the press but it also brought about fruit.

Here is what we experienced in the past year from SEP 2015 until NOW as a result of THE PRESS

  • Our backyard garden increased both in the fall and summer crops abundantly so that we were able to share with family and friends (which is what we had prayed).
  • My husband received a pay increase and two occupational recognitions for his service.
  • Our vehicle loan was paid off and we are driving two debt free automobiles.
  • I was blessed with the job I prayed for which increased income into our home.
  • We birthed Notes and Conversation for writing and community building using the resources and gifts we have been blessed with from God.
  • Many more blessings…

Oh but the PRESS also brought warfare, struggle, and pain.  I won’t list those for you.  Just suffice to say that tears have been a constant reminder of the discomfort of the PRESS.

Recently the PRESS has become really intense.  But we have discerned what YEAR 12 means for us.  The breastplate garment for the Hebrew priest represented judgement and decision.  The breastplate was decorated with twelve stones for the 12 tribes of Israel and served as a reminder of the great decisions and responsibility the priests held in serving God before these 12 tribes, the people of God.  I see this coming year is a great year of decision which will bring about transition and opportunity as we serve before the people of God.  I declare, “WE RECEIVE IT”.  From now on, I am looking forward.  We may be celebrating YEAR 11 but my jubilation will be in anticipation of YEAR 12.  Can’t wait to celebrate the halfiversary of YEAR 12 in MAR 2017.  (I learned the word halfiversary from watching the PBS Channel show Odd Squad with the children.) There is a blessing in the pressing!

Anniversary PoemHappy Anniversary to Tyrone and QuaWanna Bannarbie.  Here’s to more celebrations to come!

How about you, what was your last anniversary year like?  Share it with us in the comments.

Are you suffering from Rhythm Loss?

I was having a conversation with a dear friend about balance last night and she said to me, “I don’t use that word” and I laughed loudly.  We laughed together.  Finally, someone else besides me hates to hear the word.  But better than the fact that Natasha doesn’t use the word is that she gave me a replacement that made a whole lot of sense and better explained the present lack in my life.  I was being told that I lacked balance.  But what is actually missing in my life right now is a systematic rhythm.

Imagine that, a black girl from Southern Georgia who has lost her rhythm.

Black Girl Dancing

Hard to believe I know, but it is absolutely true.

Natasha and I talked about several different examples in the Bible such as Moses, Paul and Jesus who don’t display a clear balance structure in their work but we can surely see a rhythm in their lives.  You might be wondering the difference between balance and rhythm.  Some people actually use these terms interchangeably which I think can be a great misfortune of daily living.

Balance is a distribution of load so that steadiness is achieved.  In order to maintain a steady, balanced condition implies that what we carry has to be proportionately equivalent to our capacity to hold it.  This mindset keeps us lying to ourselves saying, “I can manage, I can manage” as we consistently pile more and more on our proverbial plates (or better stated, our scales) rather mismanaging our capacity.  For the balancing act to be methodical and therefore achievable, it has to be strategic.  If we admit it, we don’t think about a method until we have failed at managing the balance.

Rhythm, on the other hand, is systematic from the get go or it can’t be called rhythm.  We rely on patterns and cadence.  The beauty of rhythm is the longer the duration is maintained, the more comfortable you become with it.  Unlike balance where the progression of weight distribution could eventually prove detrimental to us causing us to “tip over”.   Progression of that steady succession of cadence becomes comfortable, regulated, uniform and even routine.  Next thing you know you’re moving to the beat.  You’re dancing and YOU LIKE HOW IT FEELS.

Routine …that is what I am going after.  I don’t believe one can achieve a life’s order or comfortable routine chasing after balance.  In fact, I wish people would stop using the phrase “work-life balance” because work and life will never be equal.  Balance requires equivalence to be achieved.  Now, I can see rhythm as making work, living and rest routine more attainable.  Natasha, a former, competitive sprinter shared with me, when she ran hurdles at the U.S. Naval Academy she had a certain way she attacked that race and she still remembers that method to this day.  In the same way, we learn and must adopt ways to attack our days, every day so that we are comfortable and not feeling the way I do now…offbeat!

So how do you achieve rhythm?  Simply stated, you have to set a cadence, continue in succession and exercise it repeatedly.  Get back to what was working and stick with it.  Sticking is the integral part!

What that looks like for me:

Morning Routine (Devotion, Stretching, Water Intake and Breakfast)

Morning Work (Write, Chores, Volunteer and Attack My To-Dos)

Break (Lunch, More Water Intake, Walk and Short Nap)

Afternoon Work (Attack More To-Do List Items and More Water Intake)

Break (Play, Afterschool Time, DIYs and Personal Enjoyment)

Evening Work (Dinner Preparation, Homework and Chores)

Evening Entertainment (Dinner, Socializing, Fellowship and/or TV Time)

Evening Routine (Wind Down, Prayer, Read and Relaxing Music)

Natasha speaks a lot about learning to put into practice your spiritual disciplines.  I am thankful to have had this conversation with her about rhythm.  Because she checked me, I am now able to pass this learning on to you!

No more lost rhythm!  QuaWanna is getting her groove back!

How about you?  How will you attack your day today and tomorrow and the day after?  Please share with us your spiritual disciplines and maybe you can help us get the rhythm.  Let’s Dance.

Let's Dance

 

Will You Be Found Faithful?

As a teenager, I ran for school office.  I always wanted the top positon of president or captain of the group.  Young and ignorant back then, I thought if I allowed someone else to sit in a position above me then it meant that I believed that they could lead better than I or that I was afraid of leading.  But today, I am not as quick to grab the top spot.  I’ve learned what type of leader I am.  I am a Joshua leader.  I often tell those who are over me that if they just do their part as Moses then I can handle the Joshua role with no problem.

Moses, of the Bible’s Exodus story, was God’s mouth piece but Joshua was HIS executor.  Joshua’s responsibility was to hear and pay attention to the instruction and then produce; carrying out the will of God with all his resource and potential.  Joshua Leadership is representative of the words of Luke 16:11-12 which bears witness to a man being faithful to another man’s work so that he too can be given his own.  Demonstration of Joshua’s leadership in bible study or character profiles often references the transition of power after Moses’ succession.  This is mainly because we often see leadership as one head and then several branches in descending order and power.  Yet, Joshua was leading even while Moses was head.  Joshua, an undergird of Moses, empowered Moses’ leadership more than we give credit.

Joshua Leadership can be defined as the executor carrying out the administration of a vision such that production and expected ends are achieved.  Here’s why Joshua’s executor position in leadership is vital to any Moses leading well.

Joshua Leadership Defined

Joshua demonstrated the following:

  • Follow in close proximity – In order to undergird, a Joshua Leader has to be close to the chief leader and you must remain humble. Humility requires that you have close relationship with the Lord because our flesh often wants to compete.  When you are humble, the head doesn’t fear your authority or position in relationship to his/her own.  They welcome your closeness and realize the benefit in having the executor to carry forth the will in its practical sense at the same degree that it was visually imparted to the visionary or mouthpiece as in the case of Moses.
  • Execute with thoughtful precision – A Joshua Leader considers the task carefully without being moved by adverse influence. He or she researches and surveys the environment.  They are wise.  Henry Bergson once stated, “Think like a man of action.  Act like a man of thought”.  This is an accurate description of Joshua.  Joshua’s movements were the results of time of reflection and prayer.  When he did execute, the events followed periods of wait and suspense demonstrating his carefulness in taking action.
  • Exercise your faith – Joshua was close to Moses when he prayed in the tabernacle and he would remain even after Moses departed (Exodus 33:11). This is key because this meant that Joshua had his own relationship and recognized that his positon required more time with God intimately.  A Joshua Leader cannot exercise the will of God without first exercising his faith in Him and doing that means to operate those activities of devotion, meditation, good works and recitation of God’s word outside of the time the leader has instructed or demonstrated.
  • Serve with integrity – A Joshua leader has integrity that serves them well. The head knows the accuracy of his/her actions because he/she has proven dependable in the past and repeatedly demonstrates this level of integrity unwaveringly.

I serve a couple of organizations today in a Joshua Leader role.  It is not an easy role to carry because the production of the vision takes a great deal of work.  When I am speaking of Leadership LINKS, Inc.(www.leadershiplinksus.org), I like to say that our Board Chairman is the heart of the organization and I am the circulatory system.  If I am not carrying it, the blood doesn’t get to the places where it is needed.  I know that there is much power in the blood stream.  The Blood Never Loses Its PowerTherefore, there is also a great deal of spiritual warfare involved in serving as a Joshua Leader.  The devil has witnessed once before what a team of Moses and Joshua can do and so he wreaks havoc on these relationships today in churches, organizations, school, governments and marriages.  But the key is knowing your role and being determined to be found faithful.  “Now it is required that those who have been given a trust must prove faithful” (1 Corinthians 4:2).  Joshua was such a leader.  He proved himself and when succession was necessary, God made him ruler over the same people Moses has led.

I don’t desire the head position like I did as a high school girl and I tell you why.  If I were in the position of Moses, I would want another QuaWanna to undergird me.  So since I can’t serve myself, I would rather be Joshua to someone else.

Are you a faithful Joshua Leader?  Leave a comment about which of the characteristics mentioned above can you attest to that have proven that you are in the right position?